Archive for October, 2010
Cheating and divorce statistics are some of the ugliest and most feared numbers you will find on the Internet. One in five marriages face infidelity and almost half of all marriages end in divorce. You’re probably asking yourself: what’s the good news? The good news is that over half of all marriages work even though monogamy, according to the latest scientific studies, is completely unnatural, and only 17% of the marriages affected by infidelity end because of it.
Probably not what you wanted to hear, right?
You probably wanted to hear that the rate of infidelity is declining and that the divorce rate is going with it. Well, the latter is true. The divorce rate is at its lowest since 1970 and couples are proving that they are taking it seriously and in it for the long haul. However, the rate of infidelity has not changed much in the time that it has been studied. Approximately 45% of married women will cheat during a long marriage and 60% of married men will. For the married couples: don’t feel as though you are in this alone. One in 2.7 of all couples are affected by infidelity.
You are probably hoping right about now that the cheating and divorce statistics have to have a silver lining. It depends upon the perspective what you would consider a good statistic when it comes to these matters. Ten percent of all infidelities last only a day, half last more than a month, while an insignificant few make it past the “four year” mark (probably poor consolation to many marriages). How about it the fact that it is astronomically rare for the cheater to actually marry the person they cheated with? And for those that actually do they have a higher than average (above 75%) divorce rate. Some people like that one.
Given the cheating and divorce statistics it is a wonder anyone tries their hand at marriage at all.
Hope is a human trait. We hope that this will not happen to us. We hope that our marriage will survive adversity. We hope our spouse will not stray. We hope that if they stray they will come back to us. We hope these things even when the odds are against us. Hope is a powerful thing.
Still, as hope is human so is the propensity for infidelity. Humans mess up. It can be the end of a marriage or, with counseling, a new beginning depending upon how you choose to react to it. Do you throw the baby out with the bath water? Do you do this knowing that most of your neighbors are quietly in the same boat? It is a personal decision how one deal with infidelity. It is definitely a heart and spirit crusher. You feel lost, lied to, and in limbo. You are afraid it will happen again. It just might even if you are with someone new. This doesn’t have to be depressing. Armed with the facts of how and why it happens you can put armor on your marriage or relationship. Knowing where cheating starts, knowing how to prevent and survive it, these are your best defenses.
Regardless of the stats or where you think you fall in the mix, a critical element is understanding what you’re looking for. If you couple this with discretion from Ashley Madison, you’ll be able to find the ultimate answer in the journey.
You ask any man if he’d cheat on his wife, and a high percentage would say no (publically that is). Now, if you ask that same question with one extra element: “Would you cheat on your wife if you would never get caught?” Yea, a man’s eyes will light up like a kid in a candy store with the thought of this. Well, Ashley Madison has been marketing their matchmaking service in this capacity for years. With nearly 7.5 million members, there seems to be wide spread agreement on the concept of not getting caught. But is this an Ashley Madison sex scam?
There’s been a huge media blitz with Ashley in the past month and it’s all international. Avid Life Media, a small company based in Toronto, has been getting wide media exposure with their media darling Ashley Madison. The past 30 days has included constant media attention in Australia, New Zealand, and in Europe. The response in those countries are a little bit more open than here in the US / Canada.
The average US / Canadian individual hearing about Ashley Madison for the first time acts appalled. At the same time, we all go nuts for every celebrity scandal out there. Meanwhile, 24 hours later, those same US / Canadian citizens are going on Google researching Ashley Madison. Such hypocrites we are in North America!
In Europe, you don’t get this sort of severe negative reaction. You get more of a subtle light laughter. More like a “cheating online website, what will they think of next”. So you have more acceptance of this cheating site outside of North America.
Noel Biderman, President and CEO of Ashley Madison, was quoted in an international interview that he expects Ashley Madison to have 100 million members in 5 years and become a phenomenon. The site already provides a shock factor; the next step is an acceptance factor. It obviously gets pushback in North America, yet it’s still over 7 million members. Now you throw in an accepting international community, Noel could actually forecast this thing correctly. What do you think?
The free online personals space has really taken a hit lately. A few months back, the adult section of craigslist was removed due to excess government and public pressure. Don’t be fooled, this is definitely something that Craigslist did NOT want to do. A significantly high portion of their revenues came from the adult services section. One of its major downfalls came with open prostitution, much of which contained underage and human trafficking. It really was a matter of time before CL had to shut this section down.
Like anything that deals with escorts, these girls (and johns) will find a new place online to setup shop. The moment Craigslist shut down their services, there was a huge spike in traffic to Backpage.com. At first what seemed like a simple personals site, turned into a free for all of escort activity. As a result, today (October 18) Backpage.com suspended the personals section of their site. Again, a very large percentage of their revenues come from these adult services.
If free personals and dating sites do not police their profiles closely, they will all face a similar fate. As a result, as a user (or a poster) of the sites, it crucial to value the element of discretion. Whether you use cheating sites like Ashley Madison or not, being part of a discreet dating site needs to be on top of your list of concerns.
As mentioned in the post below, the $49 Ashley Madison plan is a complete joke. Which leaves us to their two other plans, $149 and $249. With either plan, you’ll have success finding that discreet partner. The part Ashley Madison doesn’t tell you is this: “Should I get the $149 or the $249 plan”
The main difference is for $249 you get a money back guarantee, and with the $149 you don’t. Here’s the best advice that Ashley Madison will never tell you. If you live near a major city, then you don’t need the $249 plan. Save the extra hundred, put it towards the hotel room, and use the $149 plan. There will be plenty of women in your radius to fill your needs. In contrast, if you live 50+ miles away from a major city, the pool of women to choose from are much smaller. As a result, the best thing you can do is to protect your “investment” with the extra hundred. Think of it as insurance if you’d don’t a discreet partner in your area from Ashley Madison.
We all know whether you use cheating sites like Ashley Madison or regular old dating sites, the whole goal of these companies is having you sign up for free. Then you’ll get a few emails enticing you to pay to be a member. Now, this is true across the board with all matchmaking sites. When it comes to Ashley, the lowest level plan they have is $49. While this seems enticing to many, it actually is an Ashley Madison scam.
Since this site works off of a credit based system, you only get to communicate with 20 women for $49. That’s it, 20. You send out emails to 20 women, and most of which won’t even respond to you. So you’re left with blowing through your credits in no time. Now your deciding whether or not to get more credits, after all, there are some pretty good looking women on the site.
You decide to give it one more shot. You go to pay, only to find out the $49 option is no longer available and you’ll have to pay $79! So right there you just spent $130.
If you are serious about wanting to find a discreet or cheating partner, then you should avoid the $49 plan all together. If you are still interested in this plan, chances are you aren’t serious enough to be looking for a discreet partner. There are two additional membership levels, $149 and $249. Both of them will do the job in terms of getting you communicating back and forth with members (after all, just like regular old dating, it becomes a numbers game). The $249 plan however, comes with an ashley money back guarantee. Yea, they guarantee you an affair in 3 months or your money back. Go figure!
Now, if you’re not looking for discretion but in a seeking arrangement type of mindset, that Ashley has another site for you. This deals with any sort of unique relationship you can think of. Basically, there are tons of young girls out there that just can’t financially make ends meet. These girls look for a modern day version of a sugar daddy, someone in their 20s-40s that can show them a good time and help them financially. In return, you’ll have an experience of a lifetime. Check it out with ArrangementFinders.com
Now I know this article only speaks to a smaller percentage of the population; however, there seems to be a growing number of married men looking to have discreet relationships with bigger women (BBW). The odd part is this trend keeps climbing, but why? Welcome to the underground world of chubby chasers.
Your stereotype of an affair for a man is simple: he’s bored with his partner and is looking for a new sexual partner. For a woman, normally she is not satisfied emotionally and physically with her man, and is looking for that deeper affair elsewhere. Most men will f*** anything that moves, but it seems the shift towards bigger women is an intriguing one.
For every guy, there was that girl he wished he NEVER hooked up with. Could have been the ugly girl, the old girl, the dirty girl, or the chubby one. Now these bigger women are targeting married men to have affairs with. Basically, these married men are wanting change but more importantly, most do not want to leave their wives. Now, if these men had affairs with that a hot model, there’s a real good chance that marriage would end in seconds. Now, if you have an encounter with a BBW, he mentally will not leave his wife for a BBW.
Now, I know this comes across as negative to BBW, but you actually have these chubby chasers on Ashley wanting these bigger women. We all like women with some meat on their bones, but how much meat do you want! Check out the chubby chasers component of Ashley
I guess the idea of cheating is different for everyone. I hear women say all the time that you don’t have to have sex in order to be a cheat. I think that is about the craziest thing that I have ever heard. So I asked a good friend of mine, who happens to be a woman, how she defines cheating.
According to Linda she says that a woman’s definition of cheating is having any relationship that you have to hide from your significant other. This supposedly is to include conversations, meetings and anything else that your significant other would disapprove of. Now this really confused me so I had a couple questions of my own.
So does that mean that when I am talking to Linda about my marriage or talking to her about things that I can’t discuss with my wife, does that mean that I am cheating on my wife ? Of course Linda says that is different. How convenient.
First of all cheating is not the bad word that so many treat it as. As a matter fact, I prefer the word extramarital as opposed to cheating. An extramarital affair is not having a conversation or even chatting online. I do agree that an extramarital affair is something that you don’t want your wife to find out about. That’s obvious. There are many reasons for having an extramarital affair. But I will say, at least for men, it has nothing to do with love. I love my wife and will give my last breath for her but I do like to have sex with other women. That does not make me love my wife any less or make me any less of a husband to her.
I like to think that my extramarital affair actually helps my marriage. I can ask my mistress her opinion when I think that my wife has lost her mind. She helps me to understand!